Why Are You Still Single?

This question is inevitable. It always comes up. There are many different variations, “Do you want a boyfriend? Are you seeing anyone? When are you getting married?” I appreciate my friends and family. It’s wonderful to know that they want me to meet someone, but it can be overwhelming. Every time I meet someone new, every holiday, every social gathering someone brings it up. What’s interesting is these people never have anyone in mind to introduce me to, they just want to know. 

I recently read a social media post that said, “I’m going to be extra intentional about hooking my single friends up. While they sit and wait on God, I’ll be out here working. Faith without works is dead.” I think this is so cute coming from someone who got married in their twenties and has spent almost no time in their adult life being seriously single. It never ceases to amaze me the amount of opinions that people have about things that have nothing to do with them and situations that they cannot relate to. I think, if you haven’t been there, please be quiet.
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People are obsessed with being in a relationship, and at one point, I was too. But I have experienced what happens when people try and force things and the damage it causes them and those around them. They just don’t want to be single anymore. They want to change their Facebook status. They are tired of attending things alone and just want to get married already. So they overlook things, makes excuses, and talk about how in love they are. I understand frustration in the waiting. I’ve been frustrated, but I will not allow my frustration to usurp God’s authority in my life. “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they will walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31. I actually believe this verse. My mother says it to me all the time, and I say it to myself. When I look at my life, the things I have accomplished, where I am and where I am not, God’s hand is undeniable.

I am content with waiting on the Lord. I trust him completely. His timing is always right. He knows what he is doing, how old I am, and who I am. So, for those who want to know why I am still single or any other variation of that question. It’s none of your business. That’s between me and God. I am not alone, I am not lonely, and, most importantly, I am not desperate. Now, if you would please, never ask me that again.

Christine A.