This question is inevitable. It always comes up. There are many different variations, “Do you want a boyfriend? Are you seeing anyone? When are you getting married?” I appreciate my friends and family. It’s wonderful to know that they want me to meet someone, but it can be overwhelming. Every time I meet someone new, every holiday, every social gathering someone brings it up. What’s interesting is these people never have anyone in mind to introduce me to, they just want to know.
A few years ago, I met a young woman—we’ll call her Jackie—who was very vocal about her testimony. Her and her boyfriend had started off their relationship sleeping together and shortly after becoming official, felt conviction from the Lord in this area. They made an agreement with God and each other that they would honor Christ with their bodies. I thought this was a beautiful thing: two people turning from their sin, running toward Christ, and being open about it. Practicing abstinence is difficult enough; add a partner you really want to sleep with and it can feel impossible; but to begin your relationship with casual sex and then make the change to stop that is hard!
Well, my admiration was short lived. After the couple got engaged, Jackie and I went to dinner to gush over all of the juicy details. During the course of our conversation, she shared that her then fiancé asked how she felt about them living together before they got married—an idea I’m sure has crossed the minds of many engaged couples.